5...4...3...2...1...HAPPY NEW YEAR!
The clock strikes midnight, indicating a brand new year with a brand new set of resolutions you have set yourself to do.
This year, you have told yourself that you are going to lose two stone, cut off 'fake' friends and train for a marathon. You are excited by your new resolutions and have told your friends your plans, because you know this year compared to every other year, you will achieve all of them.
Fast forward. It's mid February; the days are still cold and dark and the resolutions have gone out of the window. You come home from work and automatically raid the cupboards for chocolate to give yourself the sugar rush you 'need' to boost your energy from a hard day at work. The ice cold temperature outside and your moans of being tired provides enough of an excuse not to go for a run and train for that marathon. Instead you sit on the sofa with your family size chocolate bar, and listen to the 'fake' friend you still haven't cut loose moan about another friend on the phone. You promise you will get back on track tomorrow, but tomorrow never comes.
Every year, many of us make New Year's Resolutions, and every year, many of us break them within the first few months, even weeks!
Bupa conducted a survey looking at the perceptions and attitudes of British adults towards New Year's resolutions. They found from the 26% of Brits who made New Year's resolutions, only around one in eight successfully carried out their resolution, blaming it on a lack of commitment and motivation.
I must admit: I am part of the one in eight who finds it hard to stick to a resolution. Why? I set myself unrealistic targets that are unmanageable.
Therefore, I decided this year not to make any New Year's resolutions (I was sick of failing and being disappointed in not achieving them). This year, I have decided to create 'New You' resolutions. Easy and manageable goals that are focused around my wellbeing and happiness.
When making my New You Resolutions, I have focused on particular words to guide me, for example joy.
From just this one word, I focused on the things that are going to bring me the most joy; the people or activities which put a smile on your face, and give me a warm feeling in my heart and soul.
Once I figured out this, I thought about how often I could incorporate it into my day/week/month, ensuring it was realistic and achievable for me.
Meditation brings me joy. I aim to meditate at least two times a week, then three, and so on, until I am meditating seven days a week. I am not going to rush into doing it every day of the week as I know I have to gradually build this into my routine for it to be successful.
For me, this is more achievable than running a marathon and takes care of my mental wellbeing. While others may enjoy more physical challenges like running a marathon, I know it wouldn't bring me much happiness.
Set New You Resolutions designed for YOU and nobody else. Don't make resolutions you think you need to set because other people are doing it or have told you to. Create a plan with your happiness and wellbeing in mind only.
So why don't you try making New You Resolutions for yourself?
This time, it might actually work...